.How to turn ur crush into a date.
-Saturday, September 09, 2006-
Whether you're thirteen or thirty, having a crush is one of the most exciting, confusing times of life. If you're crushing on Mr. Right, take a look at these six simple steps for turning your crush into a date.
Get excited The dating world is so full of losers and let-downs it's easy to become disenchanted with romance. Over time, you may even find yourself numb to the feelings of excitement and hope that come with love. But when you finally find someone you like - a real crush - it's okay to get excited!
While you probably shouldn't spend too much time fantasizing about a wedding to a perfect stranger, it's perfectly normal to think about your crush and look forward to seeing him. Don't deny yourself the simple joy of being madly "in like."
Get acquainted Sometimes you get so wrapped up in chasing after your dream date, you forget you really don't know him at all. Remember, this isn't just about getting your crush to like you - it's also about finding out if you really like him.
Don't just spend your time together "selling" yourself to your crush. Take the time to ask him questions and listen to his answers. Even more, pay attention to the way he treats you and those around you. Does he seem honest and consistent in the way he represents himself?
Obviously, a crush doesn't have to possess all the qualities you're looking for in a partner. But if he seems to be lacking more than a few of the big ones, you might want to consider what it was you liked about him in the first place.
Get together After you've taken the time to discover what your crush is really like, it's time for the next step: spending some time with him.
You can avoid first-date awkwardness by setting up a comfortable, casual group activity. If you work together, set up an informal lunch date. If you have friends in common, organize a group outing to a sports game. If you live in the same neighborhood, host a barbeque.
Too often people rush past the magic of a new crush. Try to take things slow in the beginning. Remember, the point is for you and your crush to enjoy each other in a fun, stress-free environment.
Get out As great as it is to linger in the early stages of flirtation, eventually you have to leave the safety net of familiarity and go out together. One-on-one time is the only way you'll really be able to move past a crush and into a dating relationship.
But that doesn't mean you have to suffer through a boring dinner date. The big date can be a day at the beach, a night at the museum or a ride through the park. The most important thing is to allow you and your crush some alone time to see how you feel about each other when no one else is around.
Get it on It's the most common problem with romantic pursuits: you've done everything right, yet somehow you've turned your crush into a buddy instead of a date. The problem is you never managed to cross the line from platonic to romantic.
So how do you avoid the "just friends" phenomena? As you get to know someone, send signals that you're looking for more than just friendship. You don't have to come on strong with an aggressive sexual move - just make sure your body language and attitude reflect your attraction. And be sure the first date ends with something a little extra friendly - whether it's a kiss, a hug or just a brush on the arm, make sure he knows he wasn't out with one of the guys.
Get smart Of course, no matter how much you like someone, sometimes he just doesn't feel the same way. The reason they're called "crushes" is because at times they really, really hurt.
You'll never totally avoid the pain of rejection, but you can minimize your hurt by being more honest with yourself. Instead of blindly hoping your crush is into you, pay attention to how he's responding to you. If he doesn't seem interested, the truth is, he probably isn't. Don't waste your time trying to turn this crush into a date; instead, find someone who's crushin' on you too.
